Today’s essay is brought to you by the joys and heartaches of relationships.
I received a note this week from “I’m Outta Here” — a younger fella who is about to strangle his very chatty girlfriend and wonders how awakening impacts relationships. This is a good question as it sends us straight into inquiry to look at the nature of “other.”
Below is my reply to this young man in case this paradox is arising for you too. AND…Remember we have Self-inquiry Saturday, June 10, 2017 at Juniper Level Botanic Garden from 2:00 – 3:30pm. Feel free to bring your camera and a bag lunch if you want to hang out before or after our gathering to spend some quiet time in the gardens…and you may want to bring some mosquito repellant 😉
Dear I’m Outta Here:
Bart (Marshall) told me when I awakened that the hardest part of awakening is relating to “other” and he is so right. Many relationships cannot weather the seismic shifts when one awakens.
I continually struggle with wanting to be alone and reclusive while knowing that Tony/other helps me see where I am constricted, judgmental, and selfing.
If I lived in a cave or totally removed from the flow, and I am laughing as I type these words cause I am the flow….there would be so much less texture, emotion, selfing. I am giddy with delight pondering a solitary life in a cave… yet I know selfing can sometimes be shaved clean by scraping against the grain and texture of other.
I feel your pain. J and I have often discussed how cool it would be to have a “wise-woman-house” so we can go days without speaking or interacting with “other” with no need to explain the pull of silence or the lack of interest with interacting or in offering comments or preferences.
I’m here for you dear one. I know this is a hard topic and hindsight in relationships seems to be 20/20. I was totally insane to marry again, yet the heart seems to have it’s way and leaves the rational brain in the dust. Remember we are being lived. There is no decider.