Relationships

Today’s essay is brought to you by the joys and heartaches of relationships. I received a note this week from “I’m Outta Here” — a younger fella who is about to strangle his very chatty girlfriend and wonders how awakening impacts relationships. This is a good question as it sends us straight into inquiry to look at the nature of “other.” Below is my reply…

Memory

What is memory and what perpetuates this belief-trap? Long ago and far away I lived in a state of mind that enjoyed and cherished pleasant memories and disliked or feared the icky and gut-wrenching memories…like the day I peed my pants in second grade…all the kids pointing to me, laughing about my lack of bladder control before dear Mrs. Southerland rushed to my rescue. We…

Politics

I received these current events questions below via email: Anita, here are some questions for you regarding conscious responses to the current political unfoldment: How to Be the accepting of all as is while saying no to actions that create suffering? How to resist harmful actions by seeming others without inner resistance?  Having no idea that anything should be other than it is while outwardly speaking and acting to…

Perceiving What Is

I’m often asked how it feels to perceive what is…how it feels to perceive no boundaries, no separation, no specific characteristics.  Well, it feels just like living…like life unfolding…but without a separate and solid “me” freaking out, spacing out, or bitching all the time…or even a me to soak up bliss and serenity. Understand that freaking out, spacing out, and bitching still continue as appearances of…

Caged

We’re conditioned to perceive life/reality as unfolding inside or outside a person/body. This caged way of perceiving life is held by the vast majority of humans and is the root of all emotional and psychological suffering. It’s been said by many folks, many times…with our thoughts we create our world. This is how the brain/mind works…conceptualizing, rationalizing, and objectifying what is perceived…and this is how…

Eliminating Thoughts and Feelings?

Recently in the news I’ve heard or read of several well-meaning teachers, gurus, therapists, and medical professionals suggesting we change, suppress, or eliminate negative thoughts and feelings — as if this were even possible.  This approach rests on the core beliefs of being a doer and being able to create change. There are no doers doing the doing!  It’s not possible to remove, change, or substitute emotions or actions…

Nature of Mind – Part 2 of 4

The personal self that is seeking freedom or awakening is the hinderance or roadblock to uncovering what is appearing now. The brain/mind creates and fashions the illusory self by objectifying what seems to be appearing. Many scientists are of the opinion that the mind is an invisible relational-process-regulator of the neural flow of information in the brain and body. Do you accept what brain scientists report…

Richard Rose

Richard Rose was my nonduality teacher’s teacher. Bart Marshall pointed me to towards the gateless gate and Richard Rose was Bart’s teacher. You will find Richard’s timeless words below quite clear and penetrating:   “The path to Truth, or Reality, or Essence is very simple:   It requires a Selfish man, an individualist not afraid of the annihilation of individualism, a fearless man not afraid…